If you are a woman then you already know that you have no problem loving. You also know that one of the biggest things that you crave is love. Men on the other hand, we have to work on it very diligently to even comprehend how a woman loves. We inherently know how to respect, and need to be respected. That is how we measure someone's care for us.
As an example, if you asked any given man what kind of relationship he would prefer -- one where his wife respected him and didn't love him, or one where his wife loved him but didn't respect him -- nine times out of ten he would choose the first. A woman asked the same question about her husband would almost always choose the second.
Women do not need respect the way men do. It is a distortion of society to say otherwise. There is a reason that relationships aren't working these days. We were not made to swap roles. Society tells us that men and women are the same, but we are not. The sooner people realize this and get back to the natural reality, the sooner we can see flourishing relationships again.
This has absolutely nothing to do with a man's or a woman's abilities. It has everything to do with the way that we respond to our interactions with each other. The more we understand our differences, the more we can satisfy our significant others' needs. You can't wait for the other person to always make the first move. If you don't show love to your wife, she will find it increasingly difficult to show you respect. If you don't show respect to your husband, he will struggle to show love to you. But as soon as one of you chooses to take that step, the other will (more often than not) reciprocate right away.